Embrace your ‘get-to’ life

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By Kirsten Adshead/motherbility

When the bedroom door creaks open at 4:54 a.m. and a small child climbs into your bed, you know your morning plan is going to need some adjustment.

Typically, the 5 a.m. hour is all mine. It’s quiet, productive and blissfully child-free.

Not today.

“Well, crap,” I said, out loud, as she snuggled into our bed, the closest I’ve ever gotten to swearing in front of my children.

Off went the light, up went the covers and there I lay, wide awake but silent, hoping she’d fall back to sleep.

And, honestly, I was annoyed.

I had a plan for the morning. It involved getting up, putting a load of laundry in, checking Facebook and email, getting dinner set up in the Crockpot, putting the kids’ school lunches together and sitting down for 15 to 20 minutes to do whatever I wanted. I had a plan.

But now, able to do nothing else until my child fell back asleep, I turned to the one thing I always think I’ll do but rarely accomplish: morning prayer.

Now, I don’t have a lot of Bible verses memorized, I didn’t have my Bible handy and the light was off anyway.

So I sought inspiration in the few verses I know that seemed most appropriate — “Be still and know that I am God,” (Psalm 46:10), and “Behold, I am doing a new thing,” (Isaiah 43:19).

(I only know the chapter-and-verse citations because I Googled them later. Just keepin’ it real.)

I closed my eyes, said a quick prayer for guidance and wisdom, sighed, opened my eyes and peeked at my daughter.

And a funny thing happened: I saw her.

Peacefully asleep, she was snuggled into me, and I lie there, picturing her awake and cheerful, and imagined the day we would have together. There’d be books, TV, breakfast, moms’ group, playtime and, of course, work.

And my attitude shifted.

“I don’t have to lie here, holding my child, while my to-do list goes unchecked,” I thought.¬†“I get to.”

So many “have to’s” are like that, right?

I don’t have to pack my kids’ lunches. I get to because I have sufficient time, money and food, while my children¬†get to head out every morning to receive a high-quality education.

I don’t have to spend my whole day running around to meet the needs of the various people and programs relying on me. I get to choose what I participate in, and the choices are plentiful.

I don’t have to pay bills. I get to have my own home with running water, electricity, heating in the winter and central air in the summer.

Options are a blessing, and my life abounds.

In the larger picture, moving from the “have to” life toward the “get to” life is the essence of motherbility.

Life’s not a grind when we’re living out our unique purpose and passion.

In the process, an attitude shift helps.

This morning I got to spend an extra 15 minutes in bed, doing nothing but snuggling with my daughter and spending time with God.

Man, I’m blessed.

What’s your “get to” today? What will it be six months from now? And how will you achieve it?


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